SPICY. SEXY. SIZZLE.

Disclaimer: This post deals in the category of sex and relationships. This is a post geared toward  married couples only. I believe sex before marriage is a  moral and spiritual sin. Engaging in sexual acts without a commitment clouds personal judgement, can cause your partner to see you in  a negative light and can bring about unsuspecting consequences for you and the one you love.

Lots of couples struggle with things getting boring in the bedroom. Married couples especially that have a few years and a couple kids under their belt. Daily routines, weekly work rituals, and morning madness with the children are just a handful of scenarios that could account for a slow down in sexual activity with your spouse. Never fear this is completely normal. Sexual valleys and peaks occur for most people peaking teens and early twenties ( sampling every piece of candy you see) mellowing out early to mid-thirties ( career focus, marriage, kids) then peaking again in our forties.

THE PROBLEM
Lets face it its hard to maintain a healthy and fulfilling sex life when you're just plain dog tired (mentally and/or physically).

• As time goes on we spend less time focused on ourselves as individuals because we are giving our all to work and family.
• We lose touch with our spouses and haven't kept up with how their sexual wants, needs, and desires have changed over time.

• Sex becomes one more thing scheduled on the to do list instead of a spontaneous passionate rendezvous.

THE SOLUTION 

• Getting the proper rest, exercise, and diet are essential to a long healthy sex life. Certain foods and supplements have a direct effect and things like libido and stamina.

http://sexualwellness.org/diet.htm 
http://sexualwellness.org/diet2.htm

• Make sure you are making time for romance, this should be a priority! I'm not talking about that lame once a week date night either FOLKS. I'm talking about patterning your entire lifestyle to be open to new opportunities to enhance your love life.  

• Communication is key don't waste time doing or saying what you think your partner likes; ASK THEM! People change. Engaging in intimate conversation with your spouse is half the turn-on. They will feel loved and valued the that you took the time to listen. You just might learn something new about them sexually that will really get things hot in a hurry!

• Get out of doing things the "traditional way" BORING. One thing sex should not be is boring , planned, or predictable. Don't be afraid to incorporate new ideals in the game. Staying within the chosen comfort level is key. Clear communication of goals and expectations should be laid out in advance.